The #1 Habit Holding You Back

There’s a voice in your head (myself included) that wants to keep you safe and comfortable. It’s the same voice that will hold you back and kill your dreams.

It whispers:

• You’re not good enough.

• You’re not ready.

• Everyone will judge you.

Since this voice sounds like you, it’s easy to believe everything it says. The truth is your inner critic isn’t you. It’s simply a bad mental habit, and one we can break.

Let’s talk about how.

How To Silence The Voice That’s Holding You Back:

1) Name It & Call It Out

The voice of self-doubt thrives when it goes unnoticed. So let’s drag it out of the shadows and bring it into the light- give it a name.

Mine is called Weak Dom, but you can name it anything you’d like. Some examples:

• “Doubtful Dan”

• “Fearful Fiona”

• “Lazy Larry”

Next time you notice it talking, trying to hold you back or keep you comfortable, talk back to it. Ya, I know it sounds ridiculous but this works wonders.

Just tell it, “thanks for bringing that up, but I have work to do”, and take action.

Suddenly it’s not you speaking, it’s just a simple thought you take control of.

2) Interrupt the Pattern:

Your brain loves habit loops- negative thoughts lead to hesitation, hesitation feeds inaction. So break the cycle, for example:

• Move your body- go for a short 25 minute walk

  (click here for a quick thought on walks)

• Change your language- switch “I can’t” to “I’ve done harder things before”.

• Shift your focus- change “what if I fail?” to “what happens if I never try?”

Your thoughts aren’t facts, you can rewire them. One of my favorite sayings I’ve heard is “don’t believe everything you think”.

3) Take Action Anyway

Waiting for confidence is like waiting for motivation, they will never show up when you “need” them to.

The secret?

Confidence comes from action, and action cures anxiety.

• Post the content.

• Share your story.

• Send the email.

Keep moving forward, despite your inner critic’s whispers to slow down and take it easy. Every time you prove it wrong it loses power.

What’s one thing you plan on doing today in the face of self-doubt?

Hit reply and let me know, I read all my messages and look forward to hearing from you.

Thanks for reading!

Dom